It is funny how many of us dont appreciate our friends.
I am very lucky, i have 3 amazing best friends. I love them and i trust them. They have always been there for me whenever i needed them. Through good and bad. We have had fights, big ones and stupid ones, and we still make up. I love them and i cant believe im this lucky.
I didnt realize how great they were.
Around March i started dated this guy who had a lot of acquaintances i thought he was happy but as i told him about all the things my friends had done for me he told me 'wow, you really have great friends!' i started to think about it more and realize that he was right. How could i not see it? My friends were there for me whenever i needed them and i never appreciated them for it.
Now, i made a new friend. He is really nice and because he has been home-schooled since he was in third grade, he is very clueless and doesnt know much about friendship and such. He has a couple of friends that he trusts, and this semester he met me and this other girl. This other girl, we'll call her Amanda, doesnt have many friends either. So she wants him all for herself. She wants him to be with her all day. And he is ok with it because i guess he likes to feel like he is wanted. I started to become really close to him too, and Amanda started getting jealous. She has a boyfriend, so i know she likes him  as a friend. The important thing is that she is very obssesive and demandind. If she doesnt get what she wants she gets mad and makes my friend feel bad. He is constantly explaining himself and saying sorry all the time. He feels like he is being torn between two friends. I dont mind that he hangs out with Amanda, like i said i have amazing friends & i know they are there for me whenever i need them. My friend and Amanda had a fight yesterday, she was pretty mean to him and he was down all day. I spent all day and afternoon with him, trying to cheer him up. He did. Today Amanda talked to him like nothing happened and they are friends again. All day he ignored me. I understand why he did it, its not because he doesnt wanna talk to me, its because Amanda doesnt like him texting me. And to avoid all the drama of explaining himself and getting her mad, he just doesnt text me at all. But how do you think i feel? I spent all my day with him yesterday and he couldnt even text me something!! ? I am more than sure that it was Amanda's fault. His friends, friends that he knows for 2 or 3 years now, dont talk to him much cuz he never hangs out with them. Why? Because he spends all his free time with Amanda.
I told him, 'you have to learn how to balance your friendships. If you dont, then im afraid your gonna lose them' I was of course talking of myself and of his others friends.  I appreciate his friendship a lot and i really like him as my friend but i cant have a friendship with someone who is not gonna put as much effort into the relationship as i will. Amanda does not want him talking to me cuz she thinks shes gonna lose him, but thats not all. She doesnt want him talking with anyone else. Its pretty annoying and tiring. i dont want him to give up all his old friendships just cuz of her. But he doesnt want to lose her. So i told him, "Either you balance all of your friendships, or you will lose them. If you really want her as your friend, then stay with her. You guys can be best friends. But im afraid you will lose your other friends" He is sad, because he doesnt know what to do. I understand is hard, i lost friends because of this. All of his friends are different and its impossible to combine them into a group. 
If i were him, i would tell Amanda that i love her as a friend but that she does not have the right to dictate my life. I have friend besides her and she has to understand that. If she doesnt understand and decides to leave, which will hurt me (from his point of view), then i will have to move on withe my life. He has to tell her how he feels because i feel like she is managing his life and its not fair cuz he doesnt deserve it.

Do we chose our friends? Of course we do! Some of us are lucky and we get our best friends in an easy way, maybe because we have a lot of things in common and we  just click. Some of us, have to go through a couple of groups of friends before finding their real true best friend. I personally have lost many friends, many people have left my life. And i have been in a situation where i have to decide which friend to keep. It is a hard decision, and it could turn out bad, but if it turns out good, then it is more than worth it.
I hope he realizes what he has to do and gives Amanda an ultimatum. I dont wanna lose him as a friend and i dont want him to lose his friends because of only one friend. Of course it would be worth it, if she is a really true friend. But if she is, and he choses to stay with her, then im afraid i cannot be his close friend. I will still be his friend. The kind of friend that i say hi to if i see him in the hall, or tha kind that i talk to in class. But nothing more.  Ill miss him because i have grown very fond of him.  :(
What will his decision be??



PS: I love my best friends!!!! We went through good and bad, and helped each other in the way. I love them so much!